"Mom, Dad & The Kids"

By Tom Wallace

I Corinthians 7:2-3: "Let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto her husband."


INTRODUCTION: The Bible places a lot of accent on couples: There are 29 couples mentioned in the Bible.

1. Adam-Eve
2. Abraham-Sarah
3. Issac-Rebecca
4. Jacob-Racheal
5. Joseph-Asenath
6. Amram-Jochebed
7. Elimelech-Naomi
8. Boaz-Ruth
9. Moses-Zipporah
10. Elkanah-Hannah
11. Saul-Ahinoam
12. Nabel-Abigail
13. David-Bathsheba
14. Rehoboam-Maachan
15. Ahab-Jezebel
16. Joram-Athaliah
17. Haman-Zeresh
18. Hosea-Gomer
19. Ahasuerus-Esther
20. Jehoiada-Jehosheba
21. Zacharias-Elizabeth
22. Joseph-Mary
23. Zebedee-Salome
24. Chuza-Joanna
25. Herod-Herodias
26. Ananias-Sapphira
27. Aquilla-Priscilla
28. Felix-Drucilla
29. Agrippa-Bernice


THERE ARE 15 COUPLES WITH ONLY THE HUSBAND NAMED.

1. Cain & Wife
2. Lot & Wife
3. Job & Wife
4. Manoah & Wife
5. Sampson & Wife
6. Phinehas & Wife
7. Solomon & Wife
8. Jeroboahm & Wife
9. Naaman & Wife
10. Isaiah & Wife
11. Amaziah & Wife
12. Ezeliel & Wife
13. Belshazzer & Wife
14. Pilate & Wife
15. Cleopas & Wife


THERE ARE 21 MARRIAGES SPOKEN OF IN THE BIBLE

1. Adam-Eve
2. Lamech-Adah
3. Issac-Rebekah
4. Esau-Judith
5. Abraham-Keturah
6. Jacob-Rachel
7. Joseph-Asenah
8. Moses-Zipporah
9. Sampson-Philistine
10. Boaz-Ruth
11. David-Michal
12. David-Abigail
13. David-Bathsheba
14. Solomon-Egyptian
15. Ahab-Jezebel
16. Ahasuerus-Esther
17. Hosea-Gomer
18. Joseph-Mary
19. Herod-Herodias
20. Cana couple
21. Christ-Church


THERE ARE 13 CASES OF POLYGAMY

1. Lamech-two wives
2. Abraham-wife & Concubine
3. Esau-three wives
4. Jacob-four wives
5. Gideon-many wives
6. Elkanah-two wives
7. Saul-wife & concubine
8. David-eight wives
9. Solomon-700 wives - 300 concubine
10. Ahab-Jesebel & several
11. Rehoboahm-18 wives & 60 concubine
12. Abijah-14 wives
13. Joash-two wives


THERE ARE 18 CASES OF SEXUAL IMPURITY IN THE BIBLE

1. Men of Sodom
2. Lot's two daughters
3. Shechem raped Diana
4. Rueben-Fathers' concubine
5. Onan spilled seed
6. Tamar enticed Judah
7. Zimri's harlot companion
8. Sampson & a harlot
9. Hophni & Phinehas
10. David with Bathsheba
11. Amnon raped half sister
12. Absolom's public sex
13. Gomer before & after
14. Samaritan's six men
15. Adulterous woman forgiven
16. Woman who washed Jesus feet.
17. Corinthian & fahter's wife
18. Jezebel II - Thyatira

A well known Sociologist wrote, "the most dangerous place in our society is the home."

- 8 million assaulted by members of own families.
- More policemen killed each year in family disputes than any other line of duty.
- 16 of 100 couples have violent confrontations each year
- Of the 16, 6 are severe kicking, biting, or punching.
- In 4, the wife is seriously beaten by husband.
- In 3, children are kicked, bitten, or punched.
- 35% of brothers and sisters attack each other.
- Highest are under 30 with no religious affiliation.
- We live in a "ME" society. (self-living)

(Ego-Centric)
- "Our Pants"


1. A HOME SHOULD BE SET UP ON BIBLICAL GROUNDS.

- Only believers should get married. (DAVE & PEGGY)
- Love does not justify marriage.
- Pregnancy does not justify marriage.
- Family traditions are not always biblical.
- Social planners are not usually biblical.
- The "RIGHTS" crowd make poor risks.
- Divorced people are high risk and unscriptural.


2. THE HOLY SPIRIT SHOULD BE GIVEN HIS PROPER PLACE.

- Unseen guest at every meal.
- Spirit filled man and woman will be ideally happy.


3. THE HOME SHOULD BE BUILT AROUND THE LOCAL CHURCH & SCHOOL

- Preacher who said he wanted to find a good church & move there, get job & build around church schedule.
- Consider services appointments with God, like doctor.
- Place of worship, learning, service, social, etc.


4. THE WORLD MUST BE KEPT OUT.

- The world Fascinates - then Assinates
- The world Thrills - then Kills
- The world Delights - then Blights
- The world Pays - then Enslaves

The world is an enemy of character. Those without character become feeling oriented.
During the last 20-30 years we've had a strong drift toward feeling & experience religion. THE REASONS:
1. Television influence.
2. Rock Music.
3. Humanistic Influence.
To offset these influences & minimize this intrusion.
- Cut T.V. Watching down or out.
- Provide stories, books, readers, that teach character.
- Use slogans. "Do Right", "Quitters never win", "Pray Without Ceasing", etc.
- Set a positive example.
- Projects of action: Paper route, Lawn cutting, chores, trips, fishing, camping, etc.
- Emphasis on accountability. Must keep books on allowance and spending, report on dates. (Debbie)


5. GIVE DAD HIS PLACE IN THE HOME.

- He is God's High Priest & accountable to God.
- Not a dictatior but a leader. (great difference)
- He must set up guidelines. (give freedom within)
- He must assume authority. (someone will)
- Delegate responsibility. (involve everybody) use-lose
- Supervise. (T. Dollar-control) Not what we expect-inspect
- Build his ego, never tear down. (food & love)


6. GIVE MOM HER PLACE IN THE HOME.

- She needs security. (especially at mid life.) (When she starts caulking instead of powering)
- She has a homemaker and mothering instinct.
- Needs to feel loved. (Ky-She ain't got no mule)


- SEVEN THINGS WOMEN SAID MADE THEM FEEL LOVED:

1. Understanding and sympathy.
2. Thoughtfulness in little (flowers, candy, birthday)
3. Verbal reassurance.
4. Physical attention - Kiss bye & Hello.
5. Positive attitude.
6. Feeling needed.
7. Assurance that he's right with God.


HER TOOLS:
1. Scheduling. (If you want supper it will be a 6:00)
2. Spending. Keep him off balance with credit cards. (Playing Teddy Roosevelt - CHARGE)
3. Sex. Powerful tool
4. Sickness. Backache, Headache, teeth itch.
5. Sobbing. Most powerful one,Man feel guilty,helpless.
6. Spirituality - Many women get ahead, & use it as tool
7. Silence. "Tell your father, I'm not speaking to him.
8. Suicide or Divorce threat. (95 yr. old)


7. GIVE THE CHILDREN A GOOD PLACE IN THE HOME.

- If lawn is to be attractive - It needs attention.
- If house is to look nice - It needs attention.
- If car is to look good - It needs attention.
- If kids are to turn out - they need attention.
- There must be discipline and training.
- Instill in them automatic understandings. (TTU)
- Set example for kids.(Have their respect)
- Will of parent must prevail over the child.
- Don't speak 7 times (Last time I'll say last time)
- Never, Never spontaneous smack or spank. (Go to bed and wait.)
- MOMMY, there's a peach growing on the peach tree.
- Rice: "Wait 3 weeks on girls, start on boys right away"
- Don't want to clone them but cultivate them.
- Teach them to be God controlled, not feeling controlled.


Illustration: Two little girls - One held by her foot on a rail road overpass With the train approaching, The other held by her love refused to leave her friend. Both killed by the train.